What do you Deserve?

Have you ever wondered what you deserve? I think for a lot of people, this is not something that has gotten a lot of deep thought. I suppose I've thought about it some, but not really in depth. I want to spend some time thinking about it; perhaps you could join me.

How do people treat you? Do they treat you well? I think you deserve to feel comfortable in your relationships. I think they shouldn't be one-sided. I don't think you should always be doing the listening; you shouldn't carry that burden. You shouldn't feel bad in your relationships. You shouldn't feel annoyed with your friends all the time. Something is wrong if you do. Sure, a fight or two is normal, but if you have a lot of negative emotions all the time, you need to change something.

What do you think you deserve? I think you deserve the best. You deserve to be treated how you treat others. You deserve love and happiness. You deserve someone who gets you and won't treat you badly. You deserve to be comfortable.

Do you think you deserve these things? If you don't, why is that? I think one of the most important things in life is to learn how to love yourself. And to forgive yourself. The only person who can truly, unconditionally love yourself is you. There is literally nobody else that you can rely on; don't let yourself down. Be kind to yourself.

I'd seem rather foolish if I were writing all this without really thinking about all this myself. I think it's difficult to really trust yourself so that you can love yourself and believe that you deserve these things. Sure, you might think you're doing things right, but you're actually not. But worrying about whether you're doing something right means you're heading in the right direction. Life is too short to be worrying about everything, though. At some point, you have to trust yourself. You'll make mistakes; I know I have. But that's not the important part. Learning and growing from those mistakes is the important part. I've messed up a lot in the past, and I'm trying not to repeat my mistakes. It's a bit scary to try to be self-aware—what if I don't like what I see? But I still believe that life is not worth living if you're just passive all the time. Honestly, what are you doing if you don't learn from your experiences? What kind of waste is that?

You deserve to actually live. And that means you're going to encounter hardships and have to deal with really difficult situations. But that's all in the path towards something better. Learning is never easy, especially when it comes to life. You deserve to learn those lessons. You're going to come out the other end a better person because of it. I've seen it first-hand. People who actually learn from their mistakes are so much nicer to be around. When it gets to a certain point, people make a conscious decision to not learn from their life. You don't deserve that. That's the easy way out, and it'll hurt you.

You deserve the good, and to get the good of life, you're going to have to get some of the bad as well. That doesn't mean you deserve the bad; it just means it's a part of the path.

I think this can all be summed up like this: you deserve life. The fullest life.

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